Tuesday 9 April 2013

H as in HOLLOW (A-Z Challenge)

Have you ever come up to something — a meeting, or family event, or social issue — and suddenly feel hollow, empty, nothing to say, finding it hard to do anything? 

In my daily walk with major depression, I come up hollow from time to time. It is the kind of hollowness that just cannot be moved by a deadline. It's a blankness of mind that simply will not respond to normal stimulation. It is an emptiness that stands in the way of prayer and meditation.

Through this I am still "Bearing up," more or less. Tomorrow will, I think, be different. But today will be a slow and sleepy day — rest, reading, and tea. 

I feel like I came out of hibernation too early, and I feel a bit "Bear brained" — the feeling that I should still be hibernating, even when I'm not. It's like being awake at night when you should be sound asleep, and would like to be sound asleep. Only it's much worse than that. 

I hope you are not having a hollow day, today. If you are, I feel some of your pain, and hope you can soon find your way through the wasteland.

When you have hollow days, what do you do to keep yourself going?

H is also for holy, hospital, heat, healing, and Haida.

Blessings and Bear hugs, folks.


54 comments:

  1. I do have hollow days, I think everyone does. It is rather unusual for me, so I actually notice them with interest, more than anything. I also hunker down and wait for it to pass or find a good book to distract me.

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    1. It's true that we all have hollow days. Some of us have them all the time — that's the challenge. Hope you keep having a wonderul time.

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  2. I write, mainly. I find my hollowness goes away when I do the things I truly love.

    And because I want to do them, I don't have to push myself as hard.

    Praying that you feel better soon!

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    1. Thanks for sharing your experience. Some days, I have to reach up to touch bottom. Such is the "nuisance value" of hollowness.

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  3. I know exactly how you feel and I have never had it described better. It is a hollow feeling I feel and out of place.

    Kathy
    http://gigglingtruckerswife.blogspot.com

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    1. Thanks, Kathy. Hope you're having a good day.

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  4. I often get that way and have to force myself toward distractions. Other times I realize its time to honor the feeling and recognize that no matter how long it lasts this is still temporary. My biggest challenge is recognizing that just because I feel this way doesnt mean I have to make it my truth. Hoping you feel better soon!

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    1. Great statement, Zoe. We experience difficulties but we cannot define ourselves, or let others define us, on the basis of our illness. In the end, it is a "high nuisance value" reality.

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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    1. By time I get going, and get my brain working, life is better. The down side is that, sometimes, that "improvement" doesn't happen until mid-afterenoon. I'm all right for the shape I'm in. Really!

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  6. Hugs to you for a hollow day. A good walk outside (or just a good sit outside if I can't muster a walk) picks me up- a little fresh air and reminder that the world awaits. :)
    Hope you feel better soon!

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    1. Thanks for dropping by and leaving a "fresh" note. By mid afternoon, life was looking better (that's when I finally felt strong enough to get out of bed).

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  7. I'll just say that I get this way about once a month, and I just remember that I'll feel fine soon, because life always has its ups and downs. Things never stay down forever.

    From A to Z, Kristen's blog: kristenhead.blogspot.com

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    1. I'm glad to know that you have only one day a month of feeeling hollow, Me? Every day is like that; some are even worse. But nothing lasts forever.

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  8. Dear Bear,
    Truth time... pinky fingers. I do not ever feel hollow, sad, alone or lonely unless someone very close has died. And then I know they are where they belong. Have you ever tried magnesium oil to rub all over your body, leave it on for as long as you can then you can wash it off. It will make you relax so much. I do that every evening.
    Blessings to the bear and his family

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    1. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. The only magnesium i know of is the stuff that burns under water. I'll check around for the oil.

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  9. Bear....my friend...I do hope that the days of hollowness become less and less for you. I do.
    Yes, I have those days occasionally. I use to try to handle them myself. Can't do it. If I could, I wouldn't have a single hollow day. I would simply be "full" always. Instead, I have turned those times over to our Lord Who can handle everything just as they should be handled. Truly, I have learned to get out of the way and let Him work those hollow feelings out for me. I learned that I just can't do it; He has taught me that He doesn't want me to do everything. He literally is my Bouy as I hang onto Him while He works things out for good.
    While I am waiting and hanging on to Him, I love the peace and quiet of being outside with the birds, the breeze, and the sky overhead.
    Many hugs to you my friend,
    Jackie

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    1. Thanks for the lovely note, Jackie! Sadly, there are days when I am totally immobilized — physically and mentally. I used to go for days at a time like that when I was initially on disability. Today wasn't to bad. Had breakfast at 9:00, then slept until 2:00. Had a reasonable afternoon and evening, thank God. Hope you stay well!

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  10. I've never suffered from depression, but it sounds awful.

    Bear hugs back at you!

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    1. Let's just say I'd prefer not to be afflicted with Depression. But thank you.

      I enjoy the things you have been doing with your blog.

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  11. I've been suffering with depression since I was 9 years old. I've tried all kinds of meds and have been hospitalized several times. I understand that hollow feeling all too well. I wish that no one ever felt this way but all we can do is say, tomorrow will be better and hope that it is. I try to find one thing, even if it's a small thing, to smile about every day. I hope you can too. ((Bear Hugs))

    Dark Thoughts Blog

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    1. Thank you for sharing some of your story, Mary. Only once have I been in hospital, though that was only the Emergency department. I slept until 2:00 p.m. today, then got up and had a reasonable afternoon and evening. I still haven't been able to get to sleep, and I suppose I should try again.

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  12. I think the best thing to do with a hollow day is not to use up energy fighting it and just accept it 'it is what is today' and just get through the day - like doing the things you are planning to do in your day!

    May every hollow day be followed by a better one :)

    http://www.mydestinationunknown.com
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    1. Thanks for the note, Kellie. That's basically what I did. I slept until 2:00 p.m., then got up and got on with my day. So the day that started so badly ended up being pretty good.

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  13. Funny....I was having a hollow kind of day yesterday. Today is much better. I enjoyed reading your posts to date on the A-Z Challenge and I am so glad you hopped by mine.

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    1. Thanks for visiting; having visitors is always encouraging! Especially visitors who say kind and thoughtful things.

      I'll be back to see you again; you can take that as a promise or threat, whichever suits you.

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  14. Thank you for sharing this. I have had 'Hollow' days for several days in a row now. I just feel numb and weak; like I can't hold my head up or stand for longer than a minute of two. Anyway, glad that you shared this. It gives me hope.
    #1341
    A to Z April Blogging Challenge
    http://mauldinfamily1.wordpress.com/2013/04/10/i-is-for-insanity/

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    1. Oh, thank you for coming by, and leaving a note, on such a yucky day for you. I do hope things get better, very soon!

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  15. I have hallow days Bear - and I try to bear them out. Knowing that tomorrow is another day. Hugs. sandie

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    1. Thanmks, Sadie. I hope you are having lots of wonderful days, too!

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  16. Sending good thoughts your way for the hollow days to subside.
    Enjoyed your post.
    Donna

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    1. Thank you so much for the good thoughts. I hope you are having wonderful days.

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  17. Enjoyed reading you post today, I can relate to this today as I to feel like I have come out of a cave, that I very much want to go back into. Sometimes the best thing to do on those days is to just tread water, and get through the day the best we can.

    Thank you so much for sharing your journey.

    Hugs Liz

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    1. Thank you for visiting, Lizzie. When all else fails, I just get back into bed and sleep. Sleep is one thing which I find helps. That's like treading water.

      Hope things are going well for you now.

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  18. I try to do anything. As long as I'm not stopping and sinking in the hollowness . . .

    I hope you feel better!

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    1. Thanks, Eagle. I'm sorryI haven't been visiting as often as I would have liked. I find your posts are challenging. Which is good, though it makes for tough reading.

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  19. Hope you're feeling slightly less hollow today. I've often felt like that but as soon as I formulate the thought that that's how I'm feeling I immediately feel like I'm so full of emotion and pain that I'm going to burst. And yet the empty feeling doesn't go away. It's weird to be experiencing both things at once. I've almost always managed to force myself to get up and go to work but if I wake up feeling like that at the weekend, well, I've had lots of weekends where I've barely moved out of bed. And if I didn't have such an apparently tiny bladder I'd have moved even less. I wish I could give you some breakthrough idea or thought to help but I've still never figured one out. Although sometimes I have felt like that and DECIDED to just let it happen, consciously said to myself, not doing anything today and curiously that sometimes leaves me starting to putter around the next time I get up to go to the toilet and before I know it I've spent two hours doing the chores I've been ignoring all week. I've spent a lot of time thinking about the charm and beauty of leading a conscious life, of purposeful living so to speak. That did help me through some bad times, I think. Allowing myself to be any way or feel anything but always forcing myself to consciously choose it. It's scary, too, because sometimes it seems like it could go too far and it could end up being a cop-out but really, it's one of those things you do just for yourself so there's nothing to gain by 'cheating'. Will stop rambling now - hope that was a semi-coherent ramble at least. Take care.

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    1. What an awesome note, Moonwaves! Thank you so much for sharing it. Conscious choices; a very positive way of moving through!

      Hope you're doing well today!

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  20. A lot of days start out being hollow days, but sometimes I just have to get up and get going. It helps that other people are expecting a normal routine, and when I can promise myself a good book or chocolate or both at the end of the day.

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    1. You're doing great, Marcy. Sadly, there are some days that I can Bearly function when I get out of bed. Which is why I go back and get some more sleep. Other peoples' expectations can be helpful, or they can be overwhelming.

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  21. I have those moments around family on occasion. It mainly is because I haven't gotten married and I don't have children so I get somewhat envious of their happiness. Somehow I try to have fun by playing with the niece and nephews. That seems to work.

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    1. You're like our daughter. Still single; plays with her niece and nephew. She's doing post-graduate work here at University, while she's also working.

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  22. I thought that was normal. When you think about it depression does seem like a logical emotional response to a largely hollow culture.

    I hope you're feeling better, Bear. You did hit the ground running after a long hibernation. Feel free to take things easy.

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    1. Thank you, susan, for your kind and thoughtful words. Ironically, I was thinking today of T.S. Eliot, and this poem, "The Hollow Men." Strange how the mind turns.

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  23. Nurse Woonie checking in!!
    In my non-expert, humble opinion ... try to maintain sleeping/rising rhythm the same every day .. preferably using sunset and sunrise (even if the sun isn't shining) as guidelines. No napping during the day if possible. Tea has tons of caffeine ... maybe cut back a bit? Be certain your intake of the B vitamins, vitamin D, calcium and potassium are where they should be. Have you ever tried massage, have you had a full blood panel lately? I'm not a fan of
    anti-depressants but it's a consideration ... don't know if you have ever tried or been prescribed one.
    I think it's a good sign that you are blogging and commenting ... we all care about you Bear.

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    1. Oh, nurse Woonie; thank you so much for coming by! Always great to see you, and get you message.

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  24. I hate it when hollowness happens!

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    1. Yes; hollowness is no fun at all. I take it that you've been there; welcome to the club.

      Thanks for leaving me a note!

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  25. Sometimes, I think the word is better suited to being called "silence." We all need to silence the noise to be able to listen to God in our hearts. Silence is a good thing, a necessary thing that allows us to be, not because we are hollow, but because we are human.

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    1. But this is more terrible than silence.

      Still, silence is good. "Be still and know that I am God."

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  26. I think we all feel hallow from time to time. I wish you more full days :)

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    1. I'm sure we do. Some of us feel hollow a lot or most of the time. That's the difference. Can't explain it otherwise.

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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  27. I know that hollowness -- it's a lonely place to be, and a wonderful place to be rid of. Blessings from Hanging Out and Hanging In!

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    1. Thanks for dropping by, and leaving a coment. I was just over to your blog; don't remember whether I left a note or not.

      The other thing which came to mind with hollow is,

      We are the hollow men
      We are the stuffed men
      Leaning together
      Headpiece filled with straw. Alas!

      Thus, T. S. Eliot.

      Alas, indeed!

      Blessings and Bear hugs!
      Bears Noting

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